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Surreal World!
OK I am not the type to share too much personal stuff, but my man went to bed & I know everyone on fb, so I need to share here.
K. This will take a minute. I was an only child of a single mother. Deadbeat dad. Right before my 15th bday I find out I have 2 younger siblings, sisters. They were so excited to make contact with me. I wasn't sure how I felt at the time. I was 15 & they were both under 10. Few yrs pass & I have an infant brother. I lose contact, because of previously mentioned deadbeat dad. Fast forward 20yrs & brother finds me on fb. I decide I should try to have a relationship with my siblings. Going good until they start pushing for me to have a relationship with my dbd. Mind you the man knew we were in contact with one another & he never once called or reached out to me. Siblings get miffed & we drift.
One day I get a call from sister telling me dbd is dying. K. Don't know what she wanted from me considering, but then tops off the call by informing me that he was dying of complications from ALS & all his children are to get tested. Thanks dbd. I don't attend funeral. They unfriend me on fb. Que sera sera.
Now...today err just now the entire family is frantically trying contact me. Why? Because apparently my dbd was far worse than we all knew. I was the oldest, but today I learned I have twin brothers who were given up for adoption in 1966. They were adopted together & when their adoptive parents died they came looking for all of us.
This is crazy! I was an only child, but now I have 5 siblings. Did I ever tell you I was happy being an only child? Well I was. For someone I only spoke with a handful of times my dbd sure has created a lot of drama. I am intrigued & genuinely interested in these 2 strangers, but unlike the rest of the "family" I am not like those on Dr. Phil all emotional about it. I am probably an ass...blame it on being an only child 
. Sorry to rant, but I couldn't exactly vent on fb with family & friends. Crazy! I JUST found out. Oooh my mom is gonna be pissed! He never told her about any of this before marrying her. Luckily he is already dead lol. Ugh this is gonna get weird. Smh.
I will not kneel before Zod.
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Flippin' hilarious! While it was breaking news for me, not so much for all of you lol. My tablet is updating & the page jumped. I didn't mean to post in Breaking News. Funny nonetheless...well it is to me!
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Vantro.... just seeing this and it's now 11:40pm. WOW. You have got to be in some form of shock. Glad you shared here. Are all the siblings nearby or even in the same state?
When I get news like this, and I have, I sit on it for a while before issuing a final response. Sometimes I write it down and see what it looks like. You may one day have a change of heart. I am a firm believer in not burning bridges.
Give yourself a hug or get one from a loved one. Shocker.....
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It's good you have a place to share, sometimes you just have to get it out! It sounds like you're handling it well to me, that kind of news would send most people into shock, you're keeping your sense of humor. Your Father was a very busy man. I think eventually you'll be able to have a relationship with your siblings without being made to feel guilty about not wanting to bond with your Father in the end. You haven't done anything wrong, you're not responsible for what your Father's done. I always look at things like, you've got a story to tell in life and life is way better than fiction. Take care.
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wow. your poor head must be reeling! Hugs, Vantro!!
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Wow!! what amazing stories...and you ladies are really amazing and strong.
Vantro and Sam
And yes Vantro it did belong in "breaking news".lol
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I want to hug you both if you wouldn't mind. Sam that is just an amazing story. I bet a lot of us have stories that are not dissimilar. We are not all brave enough to share even here. Some stories still hurt to the bone. But it must be healthier to write about it if just online here. Vantro and Sam......damn strong and good people.
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holy cow! you never know what's lurking beneath the surface, do you?
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Sam! My goodness, hugs to you as well honey.
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Write the book Sam ! 
(Vantro, too when she gets over the new shock)
Nature vs Nuture is always cool and a good basis for a jump off to write the book LOL
I too, have the adoption experience, so I know of what I speak LOL
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I think that Vantro and Sam should write a book....such interesting stories....
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Good morning everyone. First I want to thank you, but especially Sam. I know your trepidations & I appreciate you sharing. (((Sam))). You should write a book! I have started 2 & have not come close to finishing either, so I get it lol. Better yet maybe write a movie script. Please do not feel guilty for any of your decision in dealing with this. You are human & you need to look out for you in this situation. Thank you for deciding to leave your post up.
As for me things have slowed down a bit, but still tense & awkward. Everyone is so excited. I should be, but honestly I am just curious. Not only am I getting to know the 2 knew siblings I have now been thrown into rebuilding or building other relationships with the 3 siblings I already knew about. Just overwhelmed. I can only imagine how the twins feel. Crazy.
Thankfully I am helping my friend acclimate her knew horse. I can get out of my head for a bit, so then I can see the pic better later.
Thanks again everyone. Much, much appreciated. 
I will not kneel before Zod.
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