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This morning I was on a group site having a discussion with some people. There is one girl who is much younger than I am. She is also republican so we are almost always on the opposite side of debates. She kept calling me dear in her replys to me. I finally had to ask her about that as it was kind of bothering me. She says she is from the south and they do that down there as a show of respect. She said she is not comfortable with Mr or Mrs. so she uses that term as is common in the south. Now the kicker is she doesn't refer to anyone else with that terminology on that site. So my question is could she be telling the truth or is being sarcastic incognito? I don't know this woman outside of this site so it just seems weird to called dear by someone I have no personal connection to. Do you think she is being honest or not.
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Hello friend. My hubby and I have a much younger acquaintance who calls people dear/dearie all the time. It drives my hubby nuts and he thinks it's because of the small town she grew up in. He thinks that's the reason. It doesn't bother me as there are worse things I've been called(LOL)!
Are you one of the older folks in this group? Does this Southern Belle know how hold you or anyone else in this group is? Is she polite and respectful to you other wise?
It could be sarcasm.....but then again she may not be trying to offend you. If she's been cordial except for calling you dear then just let her know it bothers you. Then see if she respects your request.
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This subject was brought up here once before by 'cossysmom'
I totally dislike when someone calls me 'hon'...!
It sounds like she's being sarcastic...tell her you don't like it and if she continues....don't respond to her and ignore her... She may be doing it to annoy you...
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If you're the only one she talks to like that, I'd say she's being sarcastic, but what do I know? 
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It would annoy the hell out of me. And if she isn't calling anyone else "dear," then I would think she's being sarcastic or disrespectful. I would try politely telling her that although it may be a term of respect where she is from, it's degrading where you come from and that you would prefer she not use that term. If she continues, just start calling her babe, or hon. maybe she'll stop.
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cossysmom wrote:
It would annoy the hell out of me. And if she isn't calling anyone else "dear," then I would think she's being sarcastic or disrespectful. I would try politely telling her that although it may be a term of respect where she is from, it's degrading where you come from and that you would prefer she not use that term. If she continues, just start calling her babe, or hon. maybe she'll stop.
Well said, just what I was thinking!
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This girl is probably around 20 years younger than me and I think she has inkling of my age group. I just told her that I prefer she use my first name instead of dear. We will see what happens from here on out. Thanks for the input everyone.
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let us know what happens!
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It would annoy the hell out of me. And if she isn't calling anyone else "dear," then I would think she's being sarcastic or disrespectful. I would try politely telling her that although it may be a term of respect where she is from, it's degrading where you come from and that you would prefer she not use that term. If she continues, just start calling her babe, or hon. maybe she'll stop.
Haha...you are so funny cossysmom....
And 'Need' let us know what happens...
